Traditionally, there are specific gifts for celebrating anniversaries. You may be familiar with the 25 year “silver anniversary” or the 50 year “gold anniversary” … well, we aren’t there quite yet. But today we are celebrating our 4 year anniversary! Yay!!! So I (Wendy) thought we would look up the traditional gifts given to celebrate 4 years. In the U.S., the traditional gifts are flowers, fruit and appliances.
It is doubtful that we will be replacing our appliances this week but we are excited about celebrating 4 years together! So, instead of rushing off to buy a new fridge, I thought it might be fun to share four characteristics about Colin that have influenced me in a positive way. (He hasn’t read this yet … it will be a surprise!)
Colin’s Top 4
Direct : Padded words and tiptoeing around in conversation to avoid ‘offending’ someone is normal in today’s world. But Colin has taught me that being straight forward is actually far less stressful! That said, we absolutely need to speak the truth in love! Speaking the truth in a loving and direct way not only provides clarity, it also deepens and enriches relationships more than I ever could have imagined.
Integrity : As CS Lewis famously stated, “Integrity is doing the right thing even when no one is watching.” Colin’s work ethic is reminiscent of our grandparent’s generation. He is an honorable, hard working man who takes personal responsibility for his own life, actions and behavior. He has shown me that working until it’s done may not always be the right thing to do. Because “done” can still be wrong. Instead, working to ensure that it is right first, and then done is always the right thing to do.
Valor : Even though valor is often associated with war heroes, it is also an everyday characteristic. It takes a man of valor to to uphold his integrity, faith and faithfulness to his wife. Especially in a world where deceit and adultery are normalized, and even glorified. There is a serious lack of men in our nation today who are ready, willing, and able to stand up and be strong, honorable, decent, respectful men. Colin embraces these traits of masculinity and has encouraged me to embrace similar traits in femininity too.
Love : Colin loves me loyally and has shown me what a committed loving marriage feels like. My trust was very hard to earn because I had been hurt so deeply in the past. Yet Colin has shown me the kind of love that breaks through all kinds of pain and uncertainty. He has shown me the unmatched, unwavering steadfast love of Christ. The Bible talks a lot about love. The verse that comes to mind today is 1 John 4:18-19 which says, “There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear … We love because He (Christ) first loved us.” Colin reflects Christ’s love brilliantly.
Colin, I am unbelievably grateful for you and undeniably head over heels for you. I love you more than the world and I look forward to what the Lord has in store for us next!